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Chivalry, Courtesy, Responsibility

· By Blue (Dan Morrow) · From pages 52, 53 of the print edition

Prior to the recent tidal wave of both outrage and long-overdue action related to men treating women badly and getting away with it, Jill Filipovic, in the November 2 New York Times, described our current accidental President as "a new kind of old-school American man."

In part, she wrote, he's a throwback to the days in which Trump thought America was just "great" . . . when "authority and power were exclusively white and male by definition."

On the other hand, she asserted, he's "a thoroughly modern man-child, the kind of overgrown adolescent you expect to find on internet forums devoted to video games or anti-feminism: a tweeter of juvenile threats, a crass name-caller, an id unrestrained."

He is, she continued, "an old-school chauvinist embracing a new code of adolescent anarchy . . . a paradigm of feckless male entitlement, embracing male power while abnegating the traditional masculine requirements of chivalry, courtesy, and responsibility."

Trump's most recent pouty refusals to comment on the well-documented behavior of the GOP's candidate for Jeff Sessions' old Senate seat in Alabama is but one case in point, and one that directly and pointedly supports Filipovic's thesis.

Taking responsibility as the nominal leader of his party and rising to the defense of victims of mistreatment apparently never entered his mind. Arguably his silence is due, at least in part, to his own problems with women, many of whom have come forward at great personal risk to accuse him of similar bad behavior.

Trump both denies his guilt and brags about it openly.

Faulkner, who knew from personal experience what it meant to be on both sides of courtesy and decorum, would nevertheless agree with Filipovic: "A gentleman," he wrote, "accepts the responsibilities of his actions and bears the burden of their consequences, even when he did not himself instigate them, but only acquiesced to them, didn't say no, though he knew he should."

We call that having the good grace to recognize one's faults and admit them.

But Trump is no gentleman, and by the standards of most of the "real men" I've ever known, not much of a man either.

Let us hope that, thanks to the women who have now come forward and left us with no choice but to face these faults, we have reached a point at which the Judge Moores of the world (and, yes, the Bill Clintons too) will develop a sense of shame . . . and their constituents a sense of outrage.